End of the Month Rambling

So I was recently talking to a friend about his dating issues well just one dating issue, he started to date a female that was celibate. I am perfectly fine with celibacy it keeps the boundaries clear and defined. It protects both parties from bad decisions (i.e. pity sex, and bored sex). Also, I am just don’t trust other peoples private parts, they may be infected or just nasty.  So I can understand why more people practice celibacy. I am an advocate for until I feel ready. I can know you for years , if I don’t feel ready I won’t do anything. It just the morals I hold for myself. Anyway I digress.  He was telling me about how she wanted to wait until marriage. Which is admirable and I respect that, but the way she did it where I have an issue. She waited until 6 months into dating him to say out right “Oh I am waiting until marriage to have sex”. So here is the listed reason why you should say these upfront and other ramblings:

1. You should make it clear by the first month of dating or by date number 3 what you intentions are.  I understand being celibate in some ways, I practice it more than I would like to admit. I also tell every man I want to date early. I am not big on “casual sex” I like to have a relationship and make sure we are compatible emotionally, before sleeping with each other. I feel if I tell you early, than if you decide dating me is not an option than no hurt feelings should occur( Sometimes I am wrong). But waiting until 6 months into a relationship. WHAT the WHAT??? No that a big NO. If you can’t tell them upfront than you shouldn’t be dating them.
2. Don’t send “pics” to men that you are not going to sleep with them. Again if you made it clear no fun before marriage than do not play the teasing game. Sending pictures of you partially clothed is the worst tease of all. Look pictures are awesome especially when they know they get to touch it later but if there no touching than there should be no pictures.
3. Steve Harvey and all the Black movies need to stop promoting the wrong ideals. No offense makes you money because that how the world works. But stop with advice you wouldn’t take. Like the 90-day rule. Again I am an advocate for when you are ready not when he is ready. If you are not big on sex let him know so he can decide to stick it out our leave. If you are practicing celibacy than have an adult conversation about it and why.
4. “I was hurt by a man is not a valid reason.”   I get sick and tired of woman saying how bad they were hurt by their Ex. If you were that hurt take a year or 2 off form dating and sex, to heal yourself. It’s not fun trust me but during that time you can practice celibacy and find out what is important to you.  Do you want s short term relationship, or long-term companionship?  Be truthful with you hopes and expectations. However, work on your fairytale issues.  No there are not knight in shining armor. No he will not wait and he doesn’t have too. No you are not a damsel in distress and stop acting like one.

So here are my ramblings I completely got off of the subject but I hope you enjoy reading this post. If not than stop reading these post.