Dreams

So I have been having crazy Dreams again. The first Dream that was a few weeks ago was I went to a wedding of a friend and it was a korean wedding. Well the two friends did not get married but my ex and his current girlfriend was there. The first couple didn't get married but my ex and his current girlfriend got married and I was trying to help them have a nice wedding. So I am running around looking for things. The weeding is moved outside. My aunt is officiating the wedding. So i go for a walk and it starts to rain outside. This mutual friend I know comes driving in an old school lexus with a uhaul attached to it and I get in. He tells me I have to make a decession.

The 2nd Dream fromt dream last night and involved my friend's sister.  So i was at her baby shower and her family was thier. Well my-ex was marrying her ssister and it was his baby. I am sitting there like What in the world. Rashidah was trying her best to keep it civil and told me well  thats how love goes. I was cool until he said. I am so glad it you and not her and looked me in the face and everyone looked at me. I was livid. The next thing I know two of her friends got in my face and was cussing me out and telling I wasn't shit. I was angry. so I left and you told me not to come why didn't i listen. Your older sister Ishea and taherea started asking why did i come. I was at a lost for word. I have no idea what was going on. I think it came from the tilipia salad I ate maybe.

AGAIN THIS IS NOT ORGINAL WORK FROM ME! I am sorry had the caps lock on. I found this online 2 years ago, when trying to break bad habits of the on again-off again relationship. I am unsure if its still available on line but I have the author and site present. *I would also like to add we will not Instgram pictures of our Body for the world to see in skimpy attire, non-fitting attire or anything that reveals parts that should only be seen in the bedroom. *Queue Raheem DeVaughn song "Bedroom"-- Cheesy Exit"

"We Will Quit Sexting": 25 Dating and Love Resolutions for the Ladies in 2011

 

 

If this year is going to be different in the love department, ditch those bad relationship habits and inherit some better ones, starting today.

 

 

- Carrie Seim, BettyConfidential.com

 

A new year has just begun, and it’s time for clean slates and fresh starts – in our lives and in our hearts. There’s no better time than now to sit down with a blank piece of paper, an open mind and the determination to rock our love lives in 2011.

 

To get you started, raise your glass and toast to following BettyConfidential's 25 New Year's relationship resolutions:

 

1. We will not call, text or Facebook him twice in a row. No matter how desperate we are to hear from him. (Remember that little word, desperate.)

 

2. We’ll give Mr. Nice Guy a chance. And give Mr. Bad Boy the boot.

 

3. We’ll teach Nice Guy a few of Bad Boy’s bedroom moves.

 

4. We will not shave our legs before a first date. (We’ve finally learned not to trust ourselves to make him earn it; we need a little insurance policy.)

 

 

5. We will get friskier with our boyfriends/husbands; occasionally even in a public place (or on a public mode of transportation).

 

6. We won’t abandon the rest of our lives (including friends and family) just because we’ve met someone new.

 

7. When he sends us a one-sentence email, we will not respond with 10 paragraphs, two YouTube videos and three photo attachments. From here on, he gets fewer syllables than he sent.

 

8. We will smile at handsome strangers on a daily basis.

 

9. We will list d-bag dates in our iPhones by their character flaws. We’ll never again accept calls from “Only Dials Me When He’s Drunk Dan,” “Still-Married Marcus” or “Broke My Heart Twice Ted.”

 

10. We will stop telling ourselves we are too old, too plump, too skinny, too busy, too boring or too short for love. Self-love begets other-love.

 

11. We will quit sexting cold turkey.

 

12. We will make a habit of slapping on some lipstick and a smile before we walk out the door. Mr. Right could be waiting on the elevator. (Of course, if he’s truly Mr. Right, he’ll love you with plain old Chapstick – but that smile is crucial!)

 

 

13. We’ll invest less in thinking about wedding dresses and invest more in our retirement accounts.

 

14. We will not “friend” a guy we just started dating on Facebook. Nor will we prompt him to change his relationship status. We will remember that real life is better than virtual life.

 

15. We will stop kissing frogs who don’t turn into princes. And vice versa.

 

16. We’ll learn to trust our intuition more – and take our friends’ and families’ criticisms and/or dating advice with a healthy grain of salt.

 

17. We will get out of our comfort zone and be open to trying new ways to meet men.

 

18. We will give anyone who cheats on us the Jesse James treatment. (Thanks, Sandra!)

 

19. We won’t be afraid to define the relationship before we sleep with him.

 

20. We will throw out all of our silly dating “deal breakers” involving height, eye color, fashion sense and nose hair.

 

21. We will write new dating must-haves that include kindness, honesty, love and partnership.

 

22. We will take a breath before we start a fight with our significant other about something that won’t matter tomorrow morning.

 

23. We will remember why we fell in love with our significant other to begin with – and tell them often.

 

24. We’ll use our backbones more often than our wishbones when it comes to love.

 

25. We’ll spend more time with guys who make us laugh and less time with guys who make us cry.

 

Awkwardness is genetic!!

Awkwardness is genetic, it is located on Chromosome 5 loci 7. Don’t believe me look it up.  Actually its not but one day I will do the research to find out if it is. I think it is cause I never seem to grow out of my awkwardness it just grow and become more obvious. Maybe it’s the fact I am try to hide my weirdness, my quirky behaviors. My random outburst that make people look at me quizzically an dpause before giving up on the idea that I am actually a logical and smart person, because of one moment of gawkiness.  Yes I am in the group of awkward.  I find it funny that now everyone wants to embrace the awkward and quirkiness as a trend. Where were you 10 years ago, 15, 20 years ago? That’s right the same people who love the new awkward trend where the one who would not befriend the slightly chubby kid or the kid that knew too much. Think back to the show Malcolm in the Middle. No one understood Malcolm but us awkward people do because he reminded us that trying to be normal and fit in was ok but it would back fire cause the awkwardness is in our DNA. Fast forward now we have shows about being you and loving it. Everyone laughing jumping on the gravy train from Elle Varner, to The misadventures of Awkward Black girl, the New Girl and other comedies. People love awkward people. I feel isolated like the love people who embrace their quirks and then want to also be deemed awkward also. You have not passed the test! You have not went through the fire!